I can only be me. This
was one of the simplest and yet most profound epiphanies of my life.
The
dawning upon me that the pressure is off. Not because I won’t be,
believe, speak, think as other people suggest, require, demand or preach - but
because I cannot be anything but myself - and myself is the best thing,
the best person, I can be.
There was and is something Divine in this
realization - that I was made to be me and am fully loved - as Me! In letting
go of other people’s hopes, dreams and expectations of and for me, and thereby
letting go of worrying about pleasing them all, all the time, I am free to be
fully myself and to realize the Divinity within me...
Funnily and wonderfully enough, I please just as
many people in simply being me as I ever did by trying to please everyone...
And I’ve also discovered how wonderful it is to be accepted and loved for who I
really am.
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'Pink Dawn' painting by Regina Argetin |
I Can Not
I cannot be
anything
-or anyone -
but me.
I cannot do
simply
because
I’m expected to.
I cannot believe
because you believe
or because
I used to believe
or because it would
bring ease
or make the bullies leave
me alone.
I cannot speak
just to please;
I can not speak lies
though the truth
may cause unease
and surprise.
I cannot live
your chosen life
or prepare for your
prefered death;
I cannot dance your dance
- though it be beautiful -
or sing your song
-though it be wonderful -
I cannot walk your path -
even when it takes you
away from me,
even when we disagree,
even if I lose you completely...
I cannot dream your dreams;
my dreams are enough for me.
I can only be
the best me I can be
and true...
and you be the best you
and, if we do,
our different dances
will make choreography,
our paths
cartography,
our "Can Not"
will become “Will Be”
and then,
then,
we shall be free.
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'Self Portrait' by the author Ruth Calder Murphy |

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Beautiful and so true for each of us in our own way,,,
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